How my MOT journey started
I was raised with a certain set of values and morals and these values were instilled in me from a very young. It has then been my passion to study Business and I then decided to enrol myself at False Bay College, Fish Hoek. And this is where my MOT journey began.
During the False Bay College orientation, I was introduced to MOT and all the 9 sessions it had.
It was a long day in the heart of February, knowing that summer is still at its peak. The MOT sessions that were held were very inspiring and at the same time educational; it made me look at situations in a broader light, I began to analyse things differently to a person who has not done MOT. If there is one session that stood out for me, it was where we had to create my life shield, assisting me to focus on realistic and goal driven.
After the MOT sessions created a new and fun environment. A new journey awaited me not knowing what this path holds. In the initial stages of my course, I was nominated to run for SRC, with this another candidate in the class decided to run for SRC as well, making things a bit challenging but I enjoyed it. We were the only two candidates that ran for this election and I lost the election, automatically placing me into the position of being the Class Representative. This was a big step for me as I always wanted to portray my leadership skills but never got the opportunity while attending High School as I was always rejected, it broke my heart, but my spirit was stronger, and I always came back fighting.
Whilst being a Class Rep, I learned many things, worked very closely with the SRC members and I always went the extra mile. It was at this point where my Student Support officer recognized my potential and asked me whether I would like to join MOT. At this time, I was quite familiar with MOT and the values it stands for but there was more to it than I could imagine. Fun and knowledge were coming my way. She then advised me that I was selected to attend a 3-day training camp, specifically designed to “Empower Future Father Figures” which took place in August 2017.
As it drew closer to the weekend of the camp, my nerves started getting the better of me as I didn’t know what to expect, I had to interact with new people, meet new faces, how was I going to fit? That was just one of the many questions I asked myself.
Knowing myself, I knew nerves was a good thing.
The camp started off with an introduction of what MOT was, its values and the purpose of MOT. This is where my hunger started, I wanted more.
As the weekend continued, the values of MOT got broken down into activities and discussions for better understanding which I am pretty sure no Young Motivator will ever forget.
- THE COURAGE TO CARE
- THE COURAGE TO LIVE
- THE COURAGE TO SAY NO
Now how this ties in with the camp theme “Empowering Future Father’s” is simple. The courage to care doesn’t mean that you only need to care for your family, but to also care for yourself. Remember that you are too a human being that needs to be taken care of, self-care allows you to care for others.
The courage to live expresses that you, by being a father, will have to live not only for others but for yourself too. As living beings, we tend to live our lives for people other than ourselves which can bring hurt or disappointment not realizing that we have to live for us too.
The courage to say no is one of the values that I hold very close to my heart. It has taught me to overcome so many trials and tribulations. Living in this Era peer pressure is real. Yes, I mean REAL! Especially being a teenager and young adult, even being male. It’s tough I say. There are so many things out there that can deprive you of being a good father, such as gang-related activities to substance abuse, you name it.
Now, this might all be a bit overwhelming and could bring wonder over, how does empowering future fathers tie in with my story. However, what this has brought to me is that young men and fathers are going through so much. Let me ask you a bit of a question; is it okay for a man to cry? Can men show their emotions? Should men do the laundry? I could go on.
The MOT Empowering Future Fathers’ camp taught me that society has labelled men and made men believe that they should always be strong, they shouldn’t cry, or it’s a female’s job to do laundry. The camp taught me, as well as all the other young men who attended, that equality is important. It’s okay for a man to cry, it’s okay for a man to do whatever he feels but to remain steadfast in his duty to be an amazing father and role model in society.
In conclusion, I would like to say I am grateful for the organization and how it has empowered me to be a better person and to look at society from a bird’s eye view.
I would like to say that MOT found me.